Relationship
Health Quiz

The quiz is structured around five dimensions that relationship researchers (particularly from the Gottman Institute and attachment theory research) identify as central to relationship health: how partners communicate (especially in difficult conversations), how they navigate conflict, the degree of trust and reliability, emotional and physical intimacy, and the presence of healthy individual boundaries. The scoring is not a clinical assessment — it's a reflection tool designed to surface areas worth examining and discussing.

No. A low score reflects areas of difficulty, not a verdict. Many deeply loving, committed relationships have significant challenges in one or more of these dimensions — that's normal. What matters more than any single score is whether both people are willing to understand and work on what isn't functioning well. Research by John Gottman found that the predictor of relationship success isn't the absence of conflict but the ratio of positive to negative interactions and the willingness to repair. A low score is useful information, not a conclusion.

It can be powerful if done carefully. The best approach is for each person to take it independently and then compare results — particularly where your perceptions differ. Differences in how you each experience the same relationship are among the most valuable insights you can have. However, if there is significant conflict, emotional volatility, or a power imbalance, it may be more productive to explore these questions with the support of a couples therapist rather than independently.